Most – if not all of us – have vivid memories of our first love. As such, it’s no wonder why some of us dream about them.
If you’re wondering about the true meaning of the dream, then make sure to read through the interpretations listed below.
What does it mean when you dream about your first love?
1. You Can’t Forget Your First Love
“A first love always occupies a special place.” – Lee Konitz
No matter how brief or fleeting your first relationship was, it will always hold a special place in your heart. In fact, this is why they’re constantly in your subconscious mind.
If you often dream about making love with your first love, this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not happy with your current relationship. Expectedly, this particular ex left a huge imprint on your heart (and mind) – even if you’ve been apart for quite a while now.
2. There are a lot of unresolved issues
Puppy love relationships can get traumatic, especially if you and your partner were very young at that time. Your relationship may have been turbulent, and your breakup traumatic. Unsurprisingly, this may have left you with low self-esteem.
If your own insecurities about love continue to remain unaddressed, then the person who caused this (your ex) will keep appearing in your dreams.
3. You’re Seeking Closure
Some people will just let bygones be bygones – but not you. So even if you parted ways with your first love long ago, you’re still looking to resolve your deep-seated issues.
The problem with this is you may not get the closure you want, especially if you were in a toxic relationship. As such, it’s time to let go of the distrust and the pain.
Remember: sometimes, the only person who can give you closure is yourself.
4. You’re Channeling Your Past Trauma
Perhaps your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend broke your heart. And while your current partner seems like they wouldn’t do that, you think they will – no thanks to your bad past experiences with your former partner.
This is unfair to your current lover – just think if you were in their shoes! As such, it’s best to work out these issues, as they can take a toll on your present relationship.
5. You Want Your Ex Back
If your first love is telling you that they want you back in the dream, know that it’s not the case. It’s actually the opposite, according to professional dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg.
In fact, you want them back – even if you don’t want to admit it. Your mind is exploring this possibility, hence the recurring dreams about your first love.
6. It’s Time to Face Reality
If you dream the opposite scenario above – aka your ex telling you they don’t want you back – then your mind is essentially telling you to face the grim reality.
Things are over now, and you need to move on. Sometimes, things are not just meant to be – and you have to be brave enough to accept them.
7. You Want to Prove Your Worth
Dreaming about your ex-partner may reflect the circumstances that hounded your relationship. And, if you parted ways with them because they took you for granted, this dream may be your attempt to prove your worth.
You want them to realize how much you’ve accomplished or how far along you’ve gone without them. Needless to say, you want them to know they were wrong to break up with you. However, you can only make your point if you tell them this fact personally.
8. You Need to Love Yourself More
If your first love keeps fighting you in your dream, it’s a sign that you’re dealing with turmoil in your real life.
In fact, they symbolize the lack of love you feel for yourself.
That being said, this dream is a reminder for you to be kinder to yourself. Don’t beat yourself down! If you don’t love yourself, the people around you will find it hard to do the same.
9. You’re Afraid to Take the First Step
This dream signifies that you’re terrified to make the first move. And this does not necessarily apply to just men – women can also learn a lot from this dream.
Perhaps you’ve been hurt badly by your recent ex, and now you’re hesitant to reach out to other single people.
If you want this ‘drought’ to end, then you need to make a move. If not, you’ll miss out on the opportunity to find your one true love.
10. You’re at Peace With Yourself
Although dreams about your first love may often point to the deep-seated feelings you have for them, they may also mean that you’re finally at peace with yourself. This is particularly true if your dream involves having sex with your toxic ex-partner.
Of course, it’s essential to consider the feelings you had in your dream. If it doesn’t bring about violent emotions, then it’s a good sign. It seems that you’ve finally moved on.
11. You’re Worried About Your Current Relationship
We all want to end up with the person we love the most. But if current circumstances make this impossible, your mind may end up comparing your present lover with your former partners – your first love included.
Your subconscious is asking you to reflect on your past relationships and why they didn’t work out. They may come with lessons or pointers that can help you salvage your current relationship.
12. Problems Hound Your Present Relationship
If you feel some emotional dissatisfaction in your current relationship, your mind will try to bring you back to an era when you felt delighted. And if you associate this wonderful feeling with your first love, you’ll find a lot in your dream state.
Sadly, this also means that you’re refusing to address such problems. That’s why your subconscious mind is doing the processing for you.
On top of that, this dream may also mean that your current lover lacks the qualities you look for in a partner. As a result, you keep returning to the person with these traits – your first love.
13. Your Emotions are Bubbling Up
If you dreamt of fighting with your first love, the emotions you felt in this dream mirror the mood you’re in right now.
Just think: did you feel anger in your dream? This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re mad with your ex, for you may be mad at something (or someone) else. Perhaps you have a co-worker who’s driving you crazy.
14. It May Be PTSD
Women in abusive relationships often have PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder. It can be triggered by many things, although this may resurface in dreams as well.
Needless to say, this dream may be a sign that you still have unresolved trauma.
The best thing to do in this scenario, of course, is to seek professional help. They can help you deal with these kinds of wounds, so you don’t have to dream about your bad ex-lover again.
15. You’re a Good Person
Dreaming about your first love could also mean that you’re nice. You love helping the people around you, sometimes to your detriment.
That being said, this dream is telling you to think of yourself as well. It’s OK to help, but you shouldn’t overextend yourself to the breaking point.
It’s time for you to prioritize yourself as well.
16. You’re Ambitious
You’re a determined person and have what it takes to reach the top.
For one, you’re eager to work on extra tasks. And, if given the opportunity to do so, you’ll do things your way.
You’re not afraid to protect your interests as well. While these qualities may be deemed aggressive by others, it’s your ticket to success.
17. You’ll Lose Money
Although most first love dreams often involve your feelings – and your past/present relationships – this may also serve as a warning over your spending habits.
This dream means that you’re materialistic and used to making extravagant purchases. As such, it’s time for you to slow down and be more prudent with your money. Just consider the sky-high inflation rates we have right now!
And even if you’re careful with your cash, someone may borrow a considerable sum from you – and they may never pay it back.
If someone owes you some money, then it’s time for you to ask them to pay up!
18. It’s All About Co-Parenting
If you have kids with your first love, then dreaming about them is your mind’s way of encouraging you to co-parent with your partner.
Understandably, it can be hard to deal with this individual, especially if he/she is an abusive ex. But for the sake of the children, you need to be the bigger person and make things right.
Dreaming about your ex is a reflection of what you feel about several things. It could mirror your thoughts about them – or that of your current relationship. On top of that, it could symbolize your deep-seated feelings as well.
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